Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy & Counselling IN LONDON BRIDGE, Southwark & Forest Hill, DULWICH

INTRODUCTION


I am an experienced psychoanalytical psychotherapist and couples counsellor and executive coach based in Dulwich and London Bridge. I work with clients across the world.

I am often approached by couples who are in some form of difficulty, and who are seeking a new perspective on their relationship. I am approached by individuals and couples in creative, business and technology fields. However, I work with individuals and couples from all walks of life and with a wide range of difficulties.

I am a member of the UKCP (the main registration body) and the Guild of Psychotherapists which sees psychotherapy as a craft, and draws on eclectic theories from Melanie Klein, Jung, Freud, Wittgenstein, Relational Theory and many others and encourages unorthodox and creative discussion about how to be a psychotherapist.

I read PPE at Christ Church College, Oxford University (1991) and hold an MA and PhD from Essex University (1999). My training as a sociologist adds another dimension to my work as psychotherapist, allowing me to think about context and group life. I have recently featured in the Observer, Sunday Times and Huffington Post and often write for the psychotherapy website welldoing.org. I draw on psychotherapy as well as many other disciplines in my work and writing. I am part of the Number 42 psychotherapy practice in London Bridge.

My doctoral research with Professor Paul Thompson explored transgenerational family dynamics and how they influence individual life paths. We can understand ourselves as individuals, but sometimes it is helpful to pan out and get the bigger picture and look at family scripts, myths and dynamics.

I am a psychotherapist with the Mindfield and work with international humanitarian workers and journalists around the world.


I am a keen runner, cyclist and tennis player and I draw on these bodily and sporting disciplines to think about a range of issues, including individual and team performance. I explore psychotherapeutic themes in articles that can be found at the bottom of this page.


I have always returned to the question of how does the individual, family, team and system change? What gets us stuck, what helps us develop?


APPROACH

I am curious. I will listen as well as ask questions and get a feel of things. As a psychoanalytical psychotherapist I will work with unconscious and conscious patterns. I will work with you to map out transgenerational patterns and dynamics and explore ways to rewrite or edit family scripts. I will work with you to develop a hypothesis to understand the matters that you bring to the consulting room. Together we will co-create interpretations and ideas that are useful and helpful in living more fully and creatively. We will test out different things, in order to see what helps in real life. Psychotherapy and counselling are not text book exercises. It is your therapy and ultimately it has to be of help to you.

WHAT ISSUES DO I WORK WITH?

I work with whatever my clients bring

PRACTICE LOCATION


My consulting offices are based near Dulwich on Wood Vale SE23 3.DS in a peaceful outdoor office surrounded by trees, and in the Number 42 psychotherapy practice on Borough High Street SE1 1XW


FEES


My fees are £130 plus VAT for individual psychotherapy and counselling and £150 plus VAT for couples counselling in either Dulwich or Borough Market. From time to time I have lower fee places, please get in touch to find out more.


COUPLES INTENSIVES

I see couples for more intensive psychotherapy and counselling work on Saturday or Sat and Sunday. Fees for this tailored work can be had on application. I work with parents and adult children, as well as business partners who are seeking therapeutic support.


FREQUENCY


I generally see psychotherapy and couples counselling clients once or twice weekly at the same time. I do try and accommodate occasional rescheduling however I do charge for missed or cancelled psychotherapy sessions. Sometimes we may decide to work more intensively together.


QUALIFICATIONS


I am a fully insured and qualified adult psychoanalytical psychotherapist registered with the UKCP. I am an active member of Number 42 Psychotherapy Practice


PARKING


You are welcome to use unrestricted parking at my SE23 office and you can bring bicycles into my offices in both London Bridge and near Dulwich if you wish


THERAPY DOG


I have a (small) therapy dog and we can discuss whether you would like him to be present or not!

Welcome, and thank you for visiting my website.

My name is Ajay Khandelwal and I am a psychoanalytical psychotherapist and counsellor based in London Bridge and Dulwich in South London

Recent Articles

Do I Dress Like Larry David In Curb Your Enthusiasm?
I am a recent convert to the iconic TV show Curb Your Enthusiasm. I have loved every episode of series 12. I am feeling sad at the idea that this is the last series, especially as I am such a latecomer to this work of comic genius. There are lots of therapy references and story […]
Should I Peel Your Orange? What This Tik Tok Test Says About Your Relationship
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Altitude Sickness: What the Alps Taught me About Getting High
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Families, in the broadest sense, are the crucible in which we are shaped. It's not just the parents, but the grandparents, uncles, aunts, siblings, cousins, and family friends that influence us. This truth is captured in the multi-generational Succession saga. Succession is rich with psychoanalytical material. What great case studies! What perfect clinical vignettes. Freud […]
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Contact Me

Please contact me if you have any questions about how I work or to arrange an appointment. You can also call me on 07925 709596

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